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may i remind you again that that there was a announcement of a class called zen meditation on the body
did you hear about that
and and i talk to you about the word meditation
that the in a think english dictionary the first meaning
in the denoted of section for meditation is what
no a text
the first meeting of meditation is of now
which are text it's a text
i usually a text which is contemplated i often a religious texts that is contemplated
and meditation can also refer to the activity of the contemplation of the meditation
so the med the text in a sense for this series of meetings is the body
or meditating on the text of the body and
i think i told i told you before that there's a teaching
that all phenomena have three characteristics this is a teaching from somebody near more china sutra
okay micah to hear about before bruce remember the three characteristics
no she'll tell you again three characteristics first ones
ah sometimes called the imagined or imaginary characteristic
next one's called the other dependent characteristic and the next one's called the reality characteristic
the body that appears to us living beings
he is the imaginary body
is that it is the car is a concept or pattern of concepts
this is what we ah know our body as
most living beings what they know their body as is what is how they have learned to conceptualize their body
this is when this is one characteristic of our body is how we know it how we imagine it
howard a how are the body is made into an appearance how an appearances constructed
upon the body superimposed upon the body
and that superimposition that imaginary version of the body which is super imposed in the body is what we know
and we learn to do that through up
ah socialization and through learning how to make conventional designations because our body is composed of images which are words like hands arms legs
feet brains like an anatomy book all those words or concepts for the body which we learn
some people more or less like some people know millions and millions but thousands of names word images for the body
they have a highly developed conceptual version of the by some people have a simpler one
and that's our habitual understanding and our habitual
that's our habitual way
of working with the body
the body has another characteristic however which is not an appearance which is not an image
which doesn't appeared to to living bags
and it is actually free
of all these ideas that living beings
imagine about the body the the under non appearing body the body which is not an appearance is free of all appearances
and it's that's that's that's that's the second characteristic it is it is something that exists as i talk to you about independence on things other than itself the body exists independence on for example the whole environment
because the body is in fact the way of relating to the environment that interaction
the environments not the body but the body
exists independence on the environment
and that
that way that the way that the body is interacting with the environment is some people say it's primarily beautiful
and it's sponsors it supports
the living being who has such a body to imagine things about it and take the body
which is supporting the imagination to be the imagination so this wonderful free body supports us are living beings who are the body but who also are maging the body is some idea and the body which is free supports the living being who's not free
who is habitually
dreaming about the body and believe in the dream is the body
and as stressed by that
because it thinks the body is what it isn't and it doesn't appreciate the freedom of the body the third characteristic is that is the characteristic that the ideas of up the
ideas we have about the body the way the body appears to us
the body is the other dependent character the body's completely free of these superimposed images
so in fact the body can never be known by these images
and to understand that helps us abandon believing that our ideas of the body are the body we don't eliminate the ideas necessarily we just no longer believed their the body
soldier three characteristics
meantime back at the ranch
we know the fantasy body
i wish for us
to discover and proceed with a with an overall sense of lightness and ease in the way we care for the body
and one of the ways we care for the body is we care for the imaginary body
we we haven't we imagine ways of caring for the imaginary body
so tonight i give you example of that
when we sit here and traditionally in
zen practice we are sometimes asked or instructed to sit still
or sometimes were asked are instructed to not move
and when we hear the instruction
do not move
what we may do by habit
rather than decide to not move because we have been instructed by the buddha's to not move
we try
we are we actually do move and then we tried to stop ourselves from doing it
or ready to put another way which may be easier to understand instead of deciding to not move
we try to prevent ourselves from moving
but when we try to prevent ourselves from moving we move and then try to stop it by tensing voluntary muscles
this a relationship with not moving
is doubly important one because it shows us are habitual way of relating to the body
namely that we what do we we that we think that we try to super impose something on it
the other thing is that not moving among the various instructions is very important because if a living being doesn't move that's precisely
ah what we mean by enlightenment
so it's kind of a
important example which is one of the reasons that that instruction is given to living beings
to sit and then
don't move
is a way to be enlightened
but again we hear that we am
rather than just say okay i'll be enlightened
you told not to do something so then you don't do anything he does decide
do not do what you're told not to do
but we don't do that usually we tried to superimpose not doing on the not doing
the not doings already there you already are not you already not moving your it in that sense of not moving you're already enlightened the best minor habit we don't know how we're not doing something
why another way says
if you ask me
a to up
pick up this cup
all i can do is to decide to do it
which doesn't look good not people don't usually think i was doing anything we we asked to move the crop and you didn't move it
but as soon as you asked me actually
i might have decided to move it
but i didn't do anything
all i can do it in response to your a crisis decided to do them but i can
make my body move
but my habit is to think that i can and so what at in order to change that habit is the habit of delusion and the habit of non enlightenment so in order to change we have to go kind of against the heh
and these words are word images of how to relate to the word image of the body these are word images about huddle relate to the dream body in a new way
and actually
it's don't worry because you just relating to the dream body
not really
you just disrupt you just potentially disrupting i have it
so that you can realize
the other dependent body the beautiful free inconceivable body which supports among other things
life liberty and the pursuit of happiness
it also and an increase in the pursuit of happiness can be
to imagine the body hoping
in hopes that st nicholas will soon be here
our body allows us to dream
it it actually
it has this equality of imagination
and then
i mean it it's sponges or it it's it has an imaginary potential which when it sponsors the mine mine imagines in mind believes the images
as something more than images so the teaching of the three characteristics goes with the teaching that everything that appears to exist is just an idea

or you could say if you asked me if i could say if you asked me to move i can consent i can say
may say what you said he he yes i did but i didn't really i i just the consent came
i didn't do that on my own
my body's response to you
but i didn't when you asked me know when you asked me not to move i really didn't do the not irving i just consented
so i don't know but i i imagine that what i'm saying here is
going against some habits
and if so
i'm glad because that's exactly what does teaching us about it's a teaching about the truth to go against the habits which on
delude us which trick us
the habit which which actually
i there because were tricked and then they reinforced to dm the tendency to be tricked
and they also contribute to the body
which then supports more imagination
even and it's free to do that and it's free to be free of the imagination
another thing i'd like to say which is kind of a less lines same lines
i'll just say it simply control the control that's appropriate here is in the process not super imposed

so control of the body
the enlightening and benefiting control of the body is in the process in the body process not in the superimposition
but are we live habitually in the superimposition that's not where the enlightened and controllers the enlightening control is in the way we are actually relating to each other in that process there it's actually
an enlightened control or enlightened operation
where everything's being like tick everything's being a blessed and everything is being but everything is blessing and everything has been blessed
it's like
blessing control
are controlled blessing
but the blessing control is in the process of the way the body relates not in the imagination of the body or in the imagination of blessing
but we do have imaginations of body we do have imaginations of blessing
i'm just opening to some possible good aspect of the word control that some some situation where control would be okay
you know where it wouldn't be super super imposed an inner
ah confining and are pressing
but it would be like the way things must work
in the actual process of relationship
like you know what comes to mind is that some women
maybe some men to but quite a few women millions and millions of william of women when they're breastfeeding if they see a baby who's not even their own you know across a crowded room
they are they secrete milk
and they you know
that milk secretion is under the control of the relationship of their body which has milk in the breast and the site of the baby across the room that combination of interactions
makes this thing happened it's it's in it's kind of under control i mean it happens that way and doesn't happen another way
but the woman doesn't think okay squirt and even with her own baby
she met she might think it but that thought doesn't necessarily have that much implements
maybe it does but they usually don't want to wet their blouse when they see somebody else's baby
but there it is
has kind of a blessing i would say
it's kind of enlightened
our enlightening
that i want to touch my stark for you and


one can walk can tap into the the control it's already there namely that sometimes when somebody says to you don't move
you know a teacher who you respect
you know
a buddha or bodhisattva who says don't move or a who says you want to he want enlightenment don't move and then sort of like
you secrete yes
you know you just you hear the you hear the buddha's destruction you say young you don't decide to do it exactly it's a decision but you didn't superimpose it just like when some people ask you to do stuff you say yes
like i often tell the story of my grandson you know when he doesn't he's noise a big boy when he was about for he would sometimes say granddaddy let's do in our something he'd say something he want to do
it's not as sometimes the things he said you know
they seem pretty bizarre
and he'd look up at me and raise his hands and and he'd say he after he said this suggested this activity
which i did not hear which i which i did not secrete yes
he would say together
and then and then as yes would come
but i wasn't in control
he wasn't in control
you know he would he would see would say these he would express these bizarre activities he would look up at me he would raise his arm
and he'd say together and then it would be yes so sometimes a buddha says to us
practice this way and we say yes we're not in control but it's like we could not be otherwise than say yes however sometimes we say no and we cannot be otherwise
but we're not in control of our response to the requests a is a non borders to us but the but there is a controlling their
the causes and conditions come together and the other dependent character of our life is manifested and it's that way and it's no other way and it just for the moment and then at the same time we may have an idea about it we do
but the actual way it happens is not under the control of the superimposed imagination and this
the control of the process which is the the enlightening control allows somebody to think that are some other kind of control that they can superimpose on it but that control doesn't necessarily doesn't very often harmonize with this inconceivable beautiful for
free reality control the control of reality and then there's the control controller
imagination superimposed on that which stresses the system
be so we
we hear these teachings
and we practice compassion towards the dreams of our body but also
at a certain point we start hearing teachings
which challenge
our belief in our dream
including that
the challenge our belief in what it means to be kind to our dreams
so we have a dream i have a dream my body and i have a dream of being kind to my body but still i hear the message somehow
i hear the message about how to challenge this dream world
challenge it in the sense of
charles believing at something other than a dream
my habit it's not just a dream but to believe the dream
i hear the message be kind to the dream
so remember that your attempt to be kind will be more dreams
and if you're open to that that's
i'm going against the habit
right now if you're open to that you are going against the habit when
some people do want to be compassionate but most of them are not open
to challenging their idea of what compassion is
and it's wonderful that they want to be compassionate i think i do i'm amazed what people can do based on what they think is compassion how energetic they can be about
acting compassionately according to their idea of compassion is it's
it's great however i'm talking about something that's nice zaki greater it's just liberating
and that is
the arrogance
i'm thinking that you know what compassion is
with the teaching that the compassion you're dealing with is an illusion
and so i i mentioned recently at know abode three kinds of compassion
first kind of compassion is compassion which has living beings as its object
second kind of compassion is compassion which has elements as its object the third kind of compassion doesn't have any objects
the third kind actually
liberate beings
there's no beings out there for the third kind but the first kind is like it's like you hear the instruction
be kind to your be kind to your body and be kind to other bodies
so that first kind is i'm a real person who has real compassion for real beings sudden have real suffering i a real compassion towards a real suffering
other words a soft the person i see i believe they're real
i believe the way i see them is real and i believe they're suffering is real and i believe i'm a real
help the person
and i do etc i do in it i think that those living beings are real in other words i think that the way they appear to me as out there
at the thrill but it still it is compassion and has called sentimental compassion because it goes along with the habit of believing
how people appear is the way they are
the second kind of compassion is compassion which
this is compassion towards the elements
that make up living beings and that's when you start to realize these living beings are actually have this other dependent character which i can't necessarily see but i've heard about it and i understand that beings are are not like substantially real and also their suffering is also made of elements and also my help to them is made of elements and i've made of
elements so this is all kind of like
and i still practice compassion there but i'm a dream
but he sought for whatever who's doing dream compassion towards the dream suffering of dream people of illusory beings that frees you from there
that does that really frees you from from the usual
you got cast of mind which is a definition of sentimental or sentiment
he said you're acting according to a habitual cast of mind this way is not the usual way that people relate
they don't necessarily remember
this teaching when they're trying to help people but if you do then you're practicing in a way that frees you from sentimental stickiness of compassion but still they're still sense that there's somebody out there are somebody over here
the next phase
is when you actually realize
that these ideas are totally absent in the situation there's nobody out there and there's nobody over here that's the highest compassion
before that's reached the beings are liberated from sentimental compassion they're liberated from that sentiment but they don't yet realize the ultimate truth
so i think you know how much kindness do i do how much compassion to i express towards my body throughout the day
seems like feeding could be a kindness
giving rest could be a kindness giving exercise can be a kindness
and particularly giving exercise which is going against the habitual way of exercise
driving home it's hard for me going to san francisco it's hard for me to go back
a different way i have basically you know it's hard for me i can go by the richmond bridge i can go by the i would call the bay bridge right
and then go over the golden gate bridge back to green gulch could do it that way those are two ways i could go over the san mateo bridge i could go over the dumbarton bridge i could go up to sacramento and and come around through
horrigan come down
there's a lot i can come by could go to bring out a lot of different ways but see now it's a bit much i want to go home tonight please let me go so i e don't go very many different ways but here in berkeley you guys can drive around the block a few times on your way back in san francisco i really do try to go home different
i try to go against the habit
only because
i think it's really kind to do that
because the reason i'm doing it is to go against my habit to wake up
because i'm a bitterly i'm addicted
to knowing
my body
and i heard that everybody else is until their buddha
so i don't just do for myself
and it's it's difficult to because habits are nice because your body's like they're your your body that you don't know it's like they're serving you
now it knows it knows the way home to get an interactive think
but if you do this nice thing for your body
it's much more challenging cause huge in and
gotta pay more attention
but that's really that's the going against the habit it takes more attention to go against the habit it's easy you can you can follow the habit blindfolded
right pretty much
you can get home without noticing even drove there
i have it but to go away you never went before you have to pay attention
going against the habit is not easy it's it's it's challenging
you're challenging your habit your challenging what you think is real but in a kind way as a kindness not to be mean not a rude thing a generous thing oh darling route we're gonna go home and different way tonight
or darling i'm sorry we can't go home and different way we have to use that same bridge
but maybe we can grip the steel string will differently or look at the road differently try to go against the habit this is a meditation on the body
first of all on the imagined the dream quality the body
which is like using friends and drawing put roots down into the road you know
into the road and then
in a kind way put roots down in different ways into the road and realize the river
how's it going are you challenged
who said great one challenged persons makes my night
i'm challenged you
may not look like it but that's just an appearance actually deep down i'm really challenged and also yes

he decided
we decided to to hire to be nice to see like seems like russia

culture around appearance that would the alphabet
yeah right
thank you well you said which die for love i would say
i don't know if we decide but i think it's more like like and dislike in relationship to appearances
so this going against the habit would be to practice loving everybody i'm not saying practice liking everybody i don't recommend that actually i recommend loving everybody
learn that that that confronts the habit of appearances
and then also everybody for me includes likes and dislikes likes likes is a bot is a is a big dislike as a big so love
love likes and love dislikes not like likes love them how do you love them according to your idea of love for starters for me but when i say love
i usually mean compassion
i don't mean
attachment and are clinging and
the clinging till things i like i don't mean that by love
although it often as use that where i mean practice generosity and ethics and patients and so on
with every anime say not to do that with everything and also be aware of the teaching which is saying that you're working with your idea of those things for starters and accept be humble and say well
at least ram told me that that's that's the way pupils start they start with their idea of it
so if that's okay i mean that's why we have to start
where we are and where we are is that we're dreaming of our body and were dreaming of other bodies
because we're dreaming of them
likes and dislikes her eyes
if you if you'd in while the likes and dislikes terrorized practice love
towards everybody and everything
and then you'll get to a place which you may not like to hear about this but you'll get to a place where you realize
first of all
the body which is controlled into having harmonious relationship with everybody
the body which has harmonious relationships with everybody
so it has harmonious relationship with everybody there's a body that's harmonizing with everybody so it can't get away from harmonizing with everybody because it is that's the kind of body it is
so you realize that body
and when you realize that body the won't really be likes and dislikes anymore
and some people the old timer nine or know if i wanna be like that life would be so i don't know what if i didn't dislike some people
maybe a little bit you can dislike somebody had or know but i haven't actually heard of the buddha's disliking anybody or actually liking anybody they love everybody
and it's hard for and you can love everybody by this third kind of compassion
will you love a person and there's nobody out there
you know you're loving yourself everybody look at you love in your loving yourself
so because of because people not only appear but they appear as objects
we like it and don't like it
we're excited or depressed by these appearances but when things aren't appearances anymore they don't excite and depress us anymore
they give us peace where things aren't objects with your peace and we feel our compassion for anybody who is not on board on you know
who's never was not on board with this piece we want them to have peace we want them to have ease and we accept that they don't
and we don't hate that they don't have peace and we don't like that they don't have peace we just want them to have peace and then we want them to have peace and we want them to have peace and we don't like or dislike them and we don't cling to not liking them and we don't cling to not to not to disliking them and we don't
clean to loving them because there's no way to do it
that's what it's like
when you become free of the dream body when you can like abandoned it but you don't abandon it until you practice dream compassion towards dream people and in a dream bodies who are others and dream bodies yourself
so we need to practice dream compassion illusory compassion
but in fact i i should even say we won't get to this realization without first of all practicing real compassion towards real people
we have to go through that sentimental phase probably
but you know i think maybe some of you have already had a taste of the non sentimental variety
it's not it's got it's not it's actually not so far away when you're practicing real compassion when you're a real kind person a real generous person who's the real generosity towards real people who have real suffering it's not a huge
step to go to realize oh
who actually
maybe maybe the compassion that i'm
practicing isn't real is just what i think his compassion because this person told me that they didn't think it was compassionate when i just did
and then i've heard about it i heard about listening to people
i heard that that's part of compassion to listen so five practice if i'm actually real compassion towards somebody and they say that was really cruel and i listened to that then maybe i might question whether it really was compassionate it's not that i say well now they are real person told me that it was real cruelty
you're apt to switch to that you can just say well maybe
maybe it's not real compassion and maybe it's not real cruelty but it might be cruelty and might be compassion and actually it might be kind of illusory this whole thing so i think sometimes you
sometimes you sometimes you do see i was trying to be kind but night i was cruel and then i saw was kind and then i saw his crew or i saw he was being kind and i saw he's been grown i saw is being kind
i saw things changing i saw the things aren't as substantial as and also it you may not be that far away from the second step
have compassion
i mean you're not far we're it's right there trade nearby and you may not be far of can like getting a feel for

sounds good to me and when you write your letter you don't have to say
it could it be i would like to practice dream compassion towards these animals you can just leave out the dream part
but it might but in terms of in terms of another meditation on the body in this class i would suggest that if the good to be open to that the compassion we feel we hear the story
might be dream compassion

yeah maybe before you knew you were morning
that that was the morning that wasn't your dream of warning so actually i think a lot of people are dream or morning and they do not yet have a dream of morning
but they are morning
and and that in that morning that they're doing
is could sponsor a dream of morning but the dream morning has not yet arisen
but the the
you know if they don't know the morn only where we know the morning if to have a dream of morning
even though we're morning
we don't know it until we have a dream and
and we can't know everything that we're going through
we don't know we don't know the totality of our relationship with everybody
but what we do know about it is our dream of it
and so we have dreamed that we've that were morning are we ever dreamed that were really
i'm in pain over the appearance of
of unkindness and we have a dream that we would like to do something to encourage kindness and that's what we start
but this glass i'm telling you that the that you're starting with dream ville
but i hope that when i tell you that that doesn't undermine your enthusiasm for doing dream compassion
because dream compassion assembles the conditions for being aware there's dream compassion
and being aware this dream compassion and practicing green compassion and being aware of it
is the next layer of compassion which frees you from your habit your habitual way of doing compassion before
and makes you actually should make you more enthusiastic but some guidance may be necessary there
and then you get ready for
realizing liberating compassion yes simon

i used the example there that she didn't she didn't superimposed the lactation she didn't super imposed the leaking of her breast upon the function she just may be discovered at home didn't you feel it just looked on her breast her her bosses with

she didn't yeah she probably wasn't thinking that she was controlling her flow and yet the flow was controlled by the causes and conditions of the other dependent nature of her breasts of her milk or lactating
and the the conditions there are her breasts the vision of a baby and also the baby isn't it isn't just a vision of a baby
although as possible to close your eyes and saw a picture of a baby she might lactate and are no doubt be interesting experiment but the actual baby the sponsors the image of the baby
and her body makes us they happen and it's in the process
that that that's how one that's the one that's a wonderful example of
of generosity without thinking about doing it that she gave male continued belted didn't get to the baby just she gave milk without even knowing where i was going to go and then she noticed she had done it
and even when the mother
gives a intentionally gives her breast to the baby she may notice a log doesn't come sometimes she would like to give but the body doesn't go along with it
says in fact the process is controlling it and she's as and she has your story about it
the enlightening part is when is when by by meditating on the process from for example giving milk
at at the first two levels you realize that there's nobody out there you're giving them out to and mouth isn't out there either know you you you become free of of the separation of subject and object by this process
but it's hard to get to being free of subject and object if you don't accept that jerk
dreaming of separation of subjects and object that you're dreaming of i'm helping her people come up to you and they say you help me it's hard to like you know be a social animal and sake well not really you know i mean
he sees you listen to that and then he starts and well they're telling me that i help them but i don't know but patches are like i see the dream but i
i accept i live in the world weren't
it it looks like that other people and right now it doesn't look at that to me i don't see that i help them but i do hear that they're saying it now do i think they're separate from me i think i still do but i i'm no i'm working in the direction of becoming free of our separation by the way i'd take care of my body
which i kind of like
i'm still dreaming but i i often remember i'm dreaming
and i noticed that remembering that i'm dreaming is different than just dreaming and thinking as true
does are two different ways to live
but you have to you can't get to remembering you're dreaming until you first notice that you actually are dreaming
you can't admit that you're dreaming before you can notice to well i am and i believe it
as i have to go through that phase and in now i'm beyond that but then sometimes i slip back into back and forth i believe that one
this person when they look like they're they look like they were being mean to me and i didn't believe it
like the we have many as stories like that like the more you know the story of of the great master liang g his a great enlightenment was when his teacher was acting in a way that he didn't seek didn't see was kind and then he then he didn't see was kind and he didn't see with kind
and then he said okay i'm done with that teacher and the teacher says okay okay you can go both you should go see die you
another teacher they went to see die you and i use as high where you come from i said well i came from my my teacher told me to come to see you my by the way my teacher i don't see my teachers very kind to me he he is not kind to me he repeatedly isn't kind to me
and i use it on my god is so kind to you
and lend you walk up
he woke up
he said your teachers so kindly he said he would he he did everything with the utmost compassion for you
you know and lindsay woke up and that was kind of like a major event in chinese history that that it that this guy woke up and then he woke up a bunch of other people and millions of people woke up
not in a fruit first of all to that their dream of compassion is a dream of compassion and then they woke up to what compassion really is and what compassion really is it is not out there are in here it's not that kind of thing nothing is they become free of their ideas or compassion and then they can really become
dan dinner and thinner than their kind of like control to be compassionate they tap into reality will tap into reality we are forced into being compassionate all day long
i was controlled into seeing them
i thought you said i think he's a divorce but anyway


we're imagining our choices and so

yeah yeah

horizon there was this evolutionary process
so it seems like the last spring but from from to said a spring from reality
how does a counter
reality get you can say springs from reality or you can just say completely included in reality
it's not outside reality so by that principle that nothing's outside of you know you can't get outside reality also can't get inside reality because of that
our problems are what we use to realize reality
our delusions we use delusions to become free of delusion we use our afflictions to become free of afflictions so our afflictions or the stress we feel because we believe
our imagination is something more than imagination like i imagine you're a nice guy you know
i die i'm just kidding
but in i just just take somebody i don't know and now just try on imagining that you're a nice guy
so when i do and i do that on purpose like i try i just say i'm going imagine this guy's a nice guy i kind of know i'm imagining it
but if i know you for several days and i and i keep thinking that you're a nice guy i get in the habit and then somebody says you know john is not that nice and i kind of go low
that's uncomfortable because
now you're asking me to drive home a different way and i to i have to pay attention nor do i do i i thought he was a nice guy and is my resistance to what you just said because i have a habit maybe so you can think somebody is nice and somebody else can say they are not so nice and if you don't have habit you
like all
it's another dream

afflictions yeah afflictions
that's right experiencing afflictions leads us to realize reality afflictions are sit are signs that were not in according according to this teaching afflictions are signs that you're not in accord is reality when you're in quarter reality is no afflictions
afflictions are due to holding your idea of things as being them
even if i hold my idea of you being a nice guy would just not that bad an idea
if i hold it that would be cause of fiction if i hold to you're not a nice guy that will be the cause of affliction and no matter what you are my mind makes an appearance of you because i'm addicted to knowing
so for people that are addicted annoying which is all sentient beings
when kept this teaching
to start opening us up to
the afflictions opening us up to the conditions for the afflictions opening us up with in conflicts and to afflicted ideas of hard to be kind of the afflictions
and also the instruction we're not trying to get rid of the affliction
we're using the afflictions to become free of the afflictions
because the afflictions are included in reality and also the afflictions are telling us use these afflictions and if we don't listen to it they say it louder
and we finally say okay okay how use afflictions
fine now you got the idea
in use it means use a compassionately according to your somewhat afflicted understanding of compassion you can use afflicted compassion
towards afflictions
to become free of afflictions

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there's two marja you can't come to last to thank you for telling us
yeah thank you
we will miss you will miss your bright eyes and sweet smile
yeah well i'll keep seeing it for you

you do have my permission he have my support to miss even though i'll miss you

i got the idea that i control the action of picking a couple i can have their idea i can also the idea that i didn't control picking up the cup i pride and i e somebody so you might have picked it up even if she didn't talk about that

cocktail party

what's important about it in this situation
in light enlightenment is what's important about it
that's what's important the important of it the point of it
these teachings are apropos are to the point of enlightenment of liberating beings
people usually think they can do something
so i say you can't do something
and then that people say you can't do something than i probably would say where you can do something
and so on
i'm trying to go against the habit
so in this case i would say i can i can do sup you can say would you pick the cup up i can and then when you say that i decide
depict the couple
but i didn't do decided making the cup
i'm not picking the couple of it just it's the decision the ascent the agreement to your request a a the kebab arose in me i did not make it happen i did not impose my control on my mind to decide yes i agree with her request pick copper however
if that mind that thought yes did arise controlled by my relationship with you and our relationship with everybody that made me say yes you could have also say would you pick the kebab and i might have thought know but he didn't do the yes order now
but if you're asked me to pick the cup up then i'd say well as the closest i can come to that would be to say yes
now what about the cup gets picked up later
it's the same thing
really i don't impose my control on cuts that's the teaching cut do get raised up though but not by the control of the cup racing is not imposed upon the comprising the cup raising the perfectly controlled raising of the cup is not to from post its
in the process
it's in the process we have to do in order to be free we have to get into the river where cups are raised and set down
we're cocktail parties are raised and they go down all things arise not by themselves they don't make themselves happened there other dependent but we don't know that because we're totally immersed in it
what side of it we look and say i lifted the cup
but when you say when you lift the cup up and in my mind goes yes it's kind of like i'm kind of going along with your request
in a way but i am control going along with it i just do
which is wonderful people ask me to stuff and i just go along with it i just think like let's do it let's do this bizarre thing
you know anna
i don't get the the yes isn't there yet
this is really an is
is this really a good idea what this little boy suggesting
since pretty far out
and then he says together and then all the things fall into place in there it is i didn't make it happen he didn't make it happen
because he can't get me to do it on a sign there for x manfred he's one of his latest quotes quotable statements is at thanksgiving a lot of people thanked him
my twelve year old grandson a lot of people with the thanksgiving table thanked him partly because he just moved he made he he moved to san francisco gave up his wonderful school in l a and all his friends to come to san francisco so his mother could go to berkeley
so a lot of people were thanking him for you know coming up and being a good big brother and all that and so it was his turn he said i'm also going to thing myself
because if it wasn't for me i wouldn't be here
so anyway we're not in control we are not in control
the process is not in control of either the process isn't in control but there's control in the process something more sense to you know
you're welcome it i see your hand but it is
nine fifteen so could you remember right read your crescendo
well you're you i'm under your control what what am i going to say next
thanks for the water