Emphasizing compassion and de-emphasizing trying to control. Compassion with the impulse to try to control. Being careful without trying to control. Impartiality towards the outcome; for example, shooting basketballs at the hoop as an exercise in impartiality.  Impartiality is non-grasping. Impartiality towards a vows promotes the vow.  Being impartial promotes compassion that liberates beings. Having confidence in liberating compassion. Bodhidharma is a bodhisattva of compassion. Confidence in the ritual of sitting in silence and stillness. The three wheels of awakening to the intimacy of giver, receiver and gift. Openhanded giving and receiving, impartiality, loving-kindness and great compassion. Avalokiteshvara's love. Being compassionate to something we don't want, e.g. with cancer and with health. Story about Suzuki Roshi, "When I see this other person, I do it for you." Great compassion is unlimited and impartial. Partiality limits our compassion. Relaxation with suffering is compassionate when we are fully engaged and upright with the suffering. 

A Dharma talk for the sangha gathered at No Abode Hermitage