Loving All Being and Resistance 

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how please bear with me if i say something sounds that sounds good of grand
the buddha away
love for all beings
the buddha away his compassion for all beings
i guess at that although it's kind of a grand statement i guess it that's not a big shock to you
if it is please let me know
but i i propose that as an idea and that's what that
the buddha away the way of the buddha's is
another way i've been saying lately is
that the buddha way is helping others
huh and then further
i would offer that hum
the buddha way is to love all beings
dwelling in them
to wholeheartedly
care for all beings
in such a way
that there's no attachment to them
he and i i i would like to turn that around and say
that when we do loud bangs
wholeheartedly we are not attached to them
are you may think that there's some beings are not attached to but you don't feel like you love them with your whole heart
when i propose that if we love someone with their whole heart or not
attached to them
they can love someone a great deal and still be somewhat attached but if you exercise the love more and more fully to the end
the there will not be attachment
in the buddha away and this is what makes it possible to love all bags
how to love all beings without dwelling on them
is to love all beings
perfect wisdom
when i say perfect wisdom but you can also say the perfection of wisdom but may be better to say to love all beings with perfecting wisdom and ongoing perfecting of wisdom by loving each and every be
without dwelling in
he and i do i think i might get back to dispatch also say this kind of love of all beings
which is in accord with perfect wisdom
and which does not create attachment
is to live is to love beings with no resistance
to the beings or to the love
an amplified this resistance later i hope
so i'm i'm suggesting that
the lot the love which is the buddha's way
love which is the buddha away
of loving all beings that that love
not abiding in any of the beings that we love
hence his we love our bags it means that this love requires not abiding in anything
so the mind of the bodhisattva the being in the evolutionary process of helping others
that being has a mind of know abode and that mind of no abode that mind a perfect wisdom requires love of all beings
perfect wisdom requires love of all bigs
and vice versa
love of all beings requires perfect wisdom
this is a proposal
of cause and effect
this year i promised to
concentrate on
the buddha's teachings of causation
love for all beings is the cause a perfect wisdom perfect wisdom is the cause of the love of all beings
perfect wisdom is no resistance to any and all beings
and no resistance to any and all beings is perfect wisdom
in this case these causes and effects
our part of one thing
they are causes an effect they depend on each other they mutually cause each other
they arise me in through mutual dependence and this arising is the arising of the boot away
helping others arises with others helping us
so in echoing or
resonating with
with a famous and wonderful expression by our ancestor
a hey dogan
i would say that it will love now this is something new watch to love the buddha away
it's to love yourself
to love the way
of helping others
is to love yourself
and to love the self is to forget the self
to love the self into oblivion
i had i am tempted to say to love the self to death but
that sounds like killing so i'd say love the self into oblivion
and by loving the self into oblivion
the self is saved
i love in the south into oblivion all events realize the self all everything that happens to the self which has been loved into oblivion
our enlightening
to love the self
in the context of the buddha way is to love all beings
so this is kind of a new definition of loving the self
is this isn't again liking the self and this isn't liking our beings you can like them it's fine
and you may dislike them actually that's welcome to
but what's being encouraged his loving them which is neither like or dislike
and the love can be there when there's like and dislike which there as you know there is
i mean there seems to be
but this love of all this love of the self this thorough love with the self is the same as loving all beings
and that's the same as to forget all beings who are loved
but i just said the buddha way is to forget all beings that are loved the boot way is to love all beings and to forget all beings who are loved
in other words don't dwell on them but
i would suggest that we don't forget any beings before we love them
and now of that but don't forget him before you love them all the way
remember them until you can love them without dwelling in them
that i would suggest that to me and you
so it isn't like okay i loved him can move onto the next person
now i need to love him until i don't dwell on him
and you may think well i love him and i don't draw in him while i would say just to make sure love him more
so i love to mars to launder on him
okay we'll have i live it more
no actually i'm gonna move onto next person
we're going to come back

not really take a particular person or a particular being a being could be like rock or tomato
your own fear i love my own fear but i'm not dwelling on it okay love it some more
are you really completely willing to spend your whole life devoted to your fear
i'll tell you love it completely and have forgotten it and not abiding in it yes okay we'll go ahead and do that and let us know when you feel like you've reached complete love without dwelling in your fear
or in your spouse or in your children are in your parents are in your friends
come back and tell us when you completely loved one being with no attachment
and that you love your attachments completely with no attachment

because you can say in a sense beings are a kind of attachment
so we're not trying to get rid of attachment we're just trying not we're trying to be with attachment in such a way that doesn't create attachment
this is called for getting the boot away
for getting the self and forgetting the beings who we live for and die for
so again don't forget any beings that you're loving and tell
the forgetting happens
at the
ultimate point of the love and if you think you've reached that place
then it's good to find a buddha and bring your buddhahood to meet that buddha
check it out
hey points one one went under way to say it
we have not fully loved being
until we have forgotten

we have not fully loved being until we can't find them anymore
and not only can't find them but know that nobody can find it
then we're really in love
i have another page of notes on this line of talk but i'm gonna stop and because i just i feel like now may be time to talk about resistance
because after all it is about two thirty nine or ten thirty seven
so i promised to stop pretty soon
let us not resist
yeah resist
so i haven't been talking to you in this way for a few days in the last few days i have not been talking to you like this so
right so you've not been listening to me and talk like this for last few days so you may not have too much resistance to what i'm saying for the last few days
but if you had been you probably would be resisting what i'm saying
or is not too much rhymes yeah what sort of what i'm saying and also when i'm talking about
when i when i do talk to people that's where they do come to me and say you know i kind of resist what you're talking about i resist i must admit i resist
of all beings i resisted
when somebody tells me that
ah i think that's an expression of loving is of loving yourself that he looks and sees that he's resisting and he comes and talks he takes care of that resistance and comes and talks to me or somebody else about it it's actually quite kind to recognize it and to bring it to discuss
in a kind of calm and loving environment
let's look at dispositions shall we so person is resisting this wonderful thing was how dare you know
i'm resisting the buddha way according to you i'm resisting living for the sake of all beings
and i have the courage to be honest and tell you i'm resisting what you say is the buddha way
in a person says what should i do about the resistance and i say what do i say what should you do about the resistance you already know right why love it
love it
welcome it
live for the welfare of all beings i feel resistance to that welcome their resistance
not like it not ask for it to com necessarily don't have to invite it unless you get special encouragement
but when it comes welcome it
be patient with it
don't look on down at it as less good as less good than non resistance don't look down and half heartedness as not as good as wholeheartedness
you might say well it is not as good okay fine don't look down as not as good as less good than better
don't look down on anything
don't look down on the worst thing that there is
in your life and don't well i'm looking up to my be okay
so body cyprus a nice both to look down on others like you know i'm better than them but it is kind of okay to look up others are better than me that's kind of okay but again
if you're looking down on others welcome i love the fact that you think you're better than quite a few people
love that which means welcome it be patient with it
be gentle with it be flexible with it flexible with what
my resistance to living for the sake of all beings and my resistance in the form of thinking i'm better than other people my resistance in thinking people are
not good my resistance and thinking this is not good and that's not good my resistance to actually things that are good like living for the welfare of all beings
being patient with that gentle with that
flexible with that
nonviolent with it
nonviolent with resistance not overbearing like get rid of the resistance

now if there is get rid of the resistance
be gentle with that
there is apparently according to stories of bunch of
people in the history of the buddhist tradition who said given over resistance
they did that to give students a chance to be gentle with them
to meet them courageously and flexibly and not be overbearing on the overbearing body sought for teachers
who aren't really being overbearing know just seeing if the students kennedy not based not respond symmetrically
our poor teacher you must be kind of stressed
now i've just tested to see if you can be kind to me when i'm being overbearing

treating the resistance all these all these loving ways hand and in this way get to the point where you treat the resistance
without dwelling on it
so the the resistance
to living for the welfare of all beings
is the same as the resistance to living without dwelling in anything
and in this way of kindness you get to the place where you can actually be totally devoted to whatever your own resistance your own fear other people's resistance other people's fear other people's violence other people's greed hatred whatever to meet that
with are welcoming and gracious heart a patient heart a gentle flexible nonviolent not overbearing heart which doesn't create any attachment
and then there's wide variety of of ways that resistance to the border way manifest
but three i thought i meant might mentioned one is the one people usually mean by resistance whereas you where your hold back
but you hold back from mom
giving your life to the welfare of each and every big each and every human being each and every human being to give your life fully to each being put some people would hold back from that right
most of us can get in touch with a little bit of holding back to some human beings
right some some you feel like i don't know i don't think i'm holding back with them okay would pulled that one over there for a second to one you don't think you're holding back but some you do feel like you're holding back so you can see that resistance
i don't want to give my life to disperse and okay there's a resistance i feel resistance to that okay fine
we're with you we will be with you
as long as your resist giving yourself to this person will hang in there with you through this long path of resistance as long and ever-changing path of resistance to helping this person wholeheartedly
and also as great as you notice it and you can express it a lot of people are resisting giving themselves to people are loving beings we don't even notice that the resisting
they're distracted from noticing that the resisting this program of called the buddha way
but those who notice i really like doing really well i would say to notice okay what am i missed i'm i'm resisting the buddha way how wonderful that i knew that i'm resisting such a wonderful thing
i'm not resisting a petty thing but actually now that i think it but i also resist petty things
i'm at that i resist being petty and are like being petty when i'm petty i of like resist it
so actually i push away being great
or i resist being great a whole back from being really great and magnanimous and also hold back from being really petty and stingy and small and nasty
so actually if you're a great beings who are great beings who are living for the welfare of all beings are not afraid of being petty
because pettiness is one of the being so devoted to
when pettiness arises in themselves their patient and welcoming of it
they're kind to their own patient their own pettiness they're not and if they're afraid of their own pettiness their kind to their fear of being petty
and if they meet other beings who are dabbling or really heavily into pettiness
they welcome these
these were your columns these pettiness aficionados
they welcome these beings they welcome them they say please come in were here for you what what can we do to help you
are you can make me feel better about being petty okay
while this want you know
that you have my full support to be petty
and you can be petty as long as you need to be and i am your supporter
i hope some day that you won't dwell on the pettiness after you really love it
but right now if you're dwelling in it i am totally supporting you and i'm not dwelling actually in your dwelling on it or getting you to get out of it
i'm i say that to the person but that's my wow
to learn that
that's one kind of resistance which i guess as familiar to us holding back pushing away
another kind of resistance is holding on
so like there's like mike on pushing away the life of living for the welfare of all and each completely there's pushing out away are holding back from that
and also when someone comes to themselves we that the resisting it than i am nice to them about their resistance to this great way of living
and they asked me what to do about it and then they practice being kind to their own resistance they often notice something else in that that the resistance as about fear that if you are if we
actually open to loving all beings to living for all beings we might feel like we'd have nothing to hold onto
so we're afraid of that
so you discover more about yourself
as you notice your resistance and confess it
so the other kind of resistance is which is like when you first come to the zen center most of his first came some of you have been here a while but when when we first came
we we didn't walk most of us i don't think walk in the door and said this is mine
i own this engine some of us may felt may i felt like i'm home but i don't own house
i don't know that true to some of you come here and didn't immediately think you own the place
but if you sweep the sweep the ground and wash the floors and clean the windows and straighten the cushions and cooked meals
and fix the tires to put and poor gas into the a cars and maintain the cars and
be nice to the students and love the students and be devoted to the students and be devoted to the garden and vetoed and fix the roof and you do that for a decade
then you might think well actually i ate i do and the zen center it is mine
which is that's the normal human tendencies my center
so i'm looking at somebody who built a built some buildings here recently
and you know when he first started building them you might you might not have thought it's my building but
actually i don't even fucking thinks it now but
if you build a building it doesn't say you might think it's my building if sometimes we talk that way or like that's so and so's building because they built it
i don't like i i i probably with the word my student
try to avoid using my student
but important thing is that i look in my heart and see do i really think i own this person
it's really mine my children
my spouse do i think they're mine
if i watch you look at that so that's another form of resistance is to possess something or being
it's it's a resistance to them
and again if you're put more kindness towards them
it brings you more and more to the place of noticing where you are being possessive and then see it if you can not find this way of being with them without owning them without abiding in
it's really quite a difficult place to get to the project upon me to the perfect wisdom is called the profound perfect wisdom because it's profound means difficult it's difficult to get to the place with something where you don't dwell on it
have to love and really a lot that as a lot it's a big job love it fully not too much not too little in such a way as to not attached to it that's very profound practice dash difficult
that's why we need to be patient with our resistance in the process because it's going to
it can be very challenging for us to find this place
and again
be kind and patient with ourselves on how long it takes to fully love something without attaching to it
many great beings in the past have said this is difficult who had been trying to practices way
of course loving something a lot and being possessive of it are loving something a lot and ending a loving something a lot and being possessive of it it does have the feedback often have we do get we do get a pain for that that's cause and effect
do if you love fully
but dwelling in what you love i should say love almost fully
and dwell in it it's painful sometimes very painful so what some people do is think maybe if i love less
it will be a less painful so they try that loving less and that does sometimes reduce the pain so loving west with dwelling reduces the pain loving more with dwelling if some sense might turn the pain up
but how about loving more and ticket and dropped the door dwelling
i know this person who's had this problem with me for a long time that they really have been very kind to me and loving to me and they have a big problem with me
and the pro and reasons person came and said i still have this problem with you and i tried lovey less as a way to cope with the problem
and that does kind of help a little bit it numbs the pain but it occurred to me recently that the problem i have with you as i expect something of you
and i said why didn't say it but i kind of feel hallelujah
that's right you've been expecting something you like we were expecting mitigate be a decent person or
reasonably a reasonably kind person or
or something
or even a great loving teacher
now if some of you
it's back things of me but don't give yourself to me it won't be so painful but if you are devoted to me and your dwelling me it will be painful
and for me towards you to so that the dwelling does give feedback
does cause feedback something's off your what's the part that's office the dwelling
but the nine doi doesn't just come from not paying attention and not caring for things we just don't notice it i'm sure yeah we just don't notice that were dwelling and the other kind of dwelling
going to kind of resistance which i'm quite familiar with is forgetting
so i'm not going to like just flat out say i don't want to be devoted to all beings and i do not and i'm not saying i want to possess and control them all
so i can just resist those those the project of being devoted and not attaching by forgetting
just forget
part of a wholehearted is to remember when you remember that you can notice you're resisting when you resist a nice thing about when you forget the nice thing is that you forget you don't even notice that you're resisting because you forgot what it is that you want to do that you're resisting
so if you notice these kinds of resist if you wish to practice the buddha way and if you agree with me that it is simply very simply being devoted to all beings living for the sake of all beings making over reaction
her body speech in mind for the sake of all beings if you be with me
then you may notice some resistance and then
let's help each other deal with the resistance in this loving way because resistance is a wonderful being to love
it's a wonderful actually i like a body sought for it's a body sought but it comes to us and says can you love this resistance
pettiness is a gift for us to take care of
wholeheartedly lovingly without attaching to
and greatness
is also a gift of course which comes to us to see if we can love it without attaching to it
you know
what time is it

how bodhisattvas vow
the promise
to live for the sake of all beings
and then and then than when they practice that vow they notice resistance to it
and then they
bring that resistance forward confess it and see how they feel about it
and then act again
and see if the next action can be
wholeheartedly for the welfare of all beings
without dwelling in it and again
and if they notice holding back and so on
and there's no end of this practice
this is the ongoing maintenance of the buddha away and of no end of it until everybody
is living for the welfare of everybody and so that can be a long time before everybody's living for the welfare everybody and some of our favorite people don't seem to even be ready to consider living
for the welfare of everybody at my grandsons
one of my grandsons is still
not willing to live for the welfare and george bush
he still harping on george bush bush some administration
and you know i don't exactly town you should love george bush
with your whole heart
but i sort of to tell him that
but not to get him to do it and actually i don't tell him that
but i do say do have some response when he doesn't want to
to live for the welfare of past presidents some past presidents
but i you know
so my job with him is this person who's resisting this bodyside for practice
who has resistance to it
he doesn't yet think he owns the bodyshop for practice
he thinks he owns me
but doesn't take it owns the bodhisattva practice he more like as resistance to it in the form of
pulling back from caring for all bags so my job with him is easy to love him in his resistance in his pettiness in a small mindedness easy to love him he's a to be patient with the most the time easy to be generous with an easy to be gentle with them
the hard part with him is not abiding in him that's really hard
that's and so because all the love council
so easily
it's hard to find a place where it's like total
where there's no attachment to him nor dwelling in him
so there's a lot and it comes easily but it's a little off it's a little incomplete because i still kind of like
you know there is is fleeting dwelling here and there and i really enjoy catching myself at it
and he enjoys catching me at it too

so i've told you the story about one time i was behaving in a way he didn't like and he turned a man said after after he recovered from his hatred towards me
he said if a buddhist masters saw the way you're acting they would fire you

but then he after why he forgave me in his little hand reached up for mine and were
we were walking together again down the path
now im just recently just a short time ago he started to ask me questions about
on aren't are wonderful teacher suzuki roshi starting to ask me about how he how he was in who is students were and who wasn't wasn't his students he starting to in show interest
in our dear teacher and his teaching and his students
and of course i is easy for me to love that and welcome that but it's hard not to dwell on it
oh so lovely little guy little guy getting interested in xin or how
very difficult for me not to dwell on that you can imagine right
so how do i receive it
you know gratefully and let it go
thank you and give it away
and not just for me to perfect to to protect me from dwelling and a pain of dwelling but to shut but for the grandfather to show the grandson how to accept such a precious gift and not hold onto it and give it back to the universe
it's very difficult i really enjoy this challenge
and i think we i hope you all have some people who you really can love
and love so much that you can find a place of dwelling and be kind to the dwelling and then you're really getting to the
your guess you really getting to the heart of the bodhisattva practice you're getting close to perfect wisdom and your love support you to get close to perfect wisdom and your perfect wisdom that's coming close
he's helping you perfect your love
thank you very much for listening to this
equally extend into every be and place