November 12th, 2016, Serial No. 04330

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I'm very glad that we could be together today. Is there anything anybody wants to express or bring up? Yes. Thank you for your lecture, your topical lecture this morning. I think I'm fully on board with the aspiration of respecting all points of view and initiating dialogue, that aspiration. I aspire to have that aspiration. And I foresee the possible necessity of passionate action in the future in order to protect the planet. And I'm wondering how I could harmonize

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my aspiration with that necessity. Well, can you think of anything you can do that would be protective of our planet? Anything you can do? Lots of things. You want to give an example? I can give you two examples. Just one? Go ahead, one. One would be to enter into dialogue with people with opposing views in the way that you discussed this morning. Okay. So, yes, that action seems to be... And entering dialogue... Did you say respect other views? I have said that. Respect all views? Yes. Respect opposing views? Yes. Yeah, so if we're going to enter into dialogue... in order to protect this wonderful world that we live in, then it would be good if the dialogue was respectful and you could have a with respect.

[02:22]

Yes. I could, and I would like to. However, some of that dialogue may not Some of that action of that dialogue form of mass action in order to catch the attention of decision makers who may not be ready to enter into respectful dialogue with me. Yes, and also it could be on a level of one person to one person when one of the people is a Jew. Yes. Yes, that could be. So a mass of people can set up a dialogue with some power sources, even though they feel as power sources, they don't feel respect from the power sources. And so I'm suggesting that if you can energetically offer yourself, for example, in a large group perhaps, to some being, with respect, if you respect them, they won't listen to you.

[03:42]

And I would say that's possible, that if you have a large group of people who respectfully address somebody that maybe they won't listen. Also, if a large group of people respectfully address, they may not listen to you. Either way, we cannot make people listen, no matter how sweetly or how harshly we speak to them. I'm just making a case, I don't have a drum here, but anyway, for kind speech. To speak to people who we want to listen to us with kind speech, to say with kind speech, I have a request.

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I have a suggestion. I need this. And if there's a large group of people, if they all can do that, even if the person doesn't listen, I believe the world is more peaceful. And I believe if the request keeps coming in this sweet way, And also the next practice, I would say, the first practice is kind speech. The second practice is that you offer kind speech as a gift. Not kind speech, not sweet speech to get something. So if someone feels, these people respect me, they're speaking sweetly, and they're giving me a gift, eventually that love I propose will, they will wake up to this love.

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The people who are addressing them already are included in them. We're already included in the people we're talking to. I'm already included in you. I'm already pervading you. You're already pervading me. But we're not going to open to this mutual pervasion if one or both of us do it kindly. and generously. But if we keep offering the gift of kind speech and our presence, eventually the resistance will melt away. I've tried so hard, my that you're my every dream, but everything I do you think is just some evil scheme. if you keep showing that sweet love, not trying to manipulate her or him, they will open.

[07:02]

They will open. But if you try to pry them open, they might tighten up. I don't know what they'll do. But if you want to open people to compassion, the way is through compassion. And you can do it in a large group. And then each has to check on themselves. And you need to support your friends to speak with kind speech. And I don't know how long it takes before the cold heart melts. I don't know how long it takes. But the whole theory is just keep loving until the resistance melts. And then the love continues, but now unhindered. And then the next practices are then once the doors are open, then do good things. And then finally, practice non-duality with the people.

[08:11]

Practice from their point of view. And practice from the point of view of them being included This is the way, like I was in a gym and somebody says, how's it going? And I say, well, there's so much sadness and so on. I'm just wondering what I can offer to the situation. And the guy said, what are you doing? Attraction. If what we do is attractive, people will give it a try someday. Now there's also this other way of you get a large group of people and you don't speak with harsh, you speak with harsh speech, which you try to get, and we've seen a lot of that, and there will probably be some more. But I'm not promoting that, because part of the problem is that if that turns into war, then it's kind of hard for the people who are trying to, even the people who are trying to practice,

[09:20]

and giving and so on. In the middle of war, it makes it much harder for them to continue to do that. Not impossible, but you have to be very advanced to remember this practice of kind speech and generosity and beneficial action and unity action when there's a war. We have peace still. There's disturbances all over the place, but they're not at a point where I can't even say this. They're not at a point where you can't listen to me. I still dare to say these outrageous things and have you chant what you just chanted. Who you've been kind to harms you. You're going to receive that with gratitude as the Buddha is teaching to you. So that's one example of something you can do. Another thing you can do is tulips, which I did yesterday.

[10:25]

And it was a lot of work, but somebody helped me. Actually, somebody helped me by sending me all these tulips, and I went, no. I have to plant them. It would be wonderful when they bloom. Everybody would be happy. Everyone would be inspired by the beautiful tuliping. In the meantime, someone gives them to me and someone comes and helps me plant them. It wasn't so bad. A young man helped me. So now they're planted. Another thing I want to do is I want to... Did Norbert leave? Yes. I want to plant trees. And all these maple trees come from the yard of the house I live in in Green Gulch. Babies of the maple trees at my house. Every year there's thousands of little baby maple trees on the ground.

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And then so I take some of them and put them in pots and let them grow and then when they get big enough I bring them over here and now you see them. ...are like ten feet tall now. And then the ones in the yard are now huge. So I plant trees. But I... And I do it in dialogue with you. And you help me. I don't do it by myself. If you tell me that I'm planting too many trees, I won't... ...to you. It might get to that. You're planting too many maple trees. That's no good. Stop. Really, what's the matter? Well, blah, blah, blah. I'll listen. Because planting the maple trees is good, but more importantly, it's good in dialogue with the other maple trees and with you. That's what's really important. That's where the awakening comes, is in the dialogue of the planting with the earth and the neighbors and you

[12:37]

and the maple trees that they come from, all that. So there's many things we can do to bring encouragement to people, but it works best if it's in dialogue so we're not imposing maple trees on people. We're not imposing tulips on people. we're offering them kindly. And this transforms beings towards the bodhisattva way. No coercion, just doing these attractive things. I was attracted to Zen of Zen Bodhisattvas. They'd lived their life and I thought, I want to try that. So, it would be nice if we express ourselves to various powerful beings that we do in such a way that some people look at us and say, I want to join those people.

[13:42]

The way they're doing this is really attractive. I want to join them. I don't even know what they're protesting about, but whatever they're doing is really beautiful. I want to join that. Okay? Yes? I need to speak somehow today, and I feel different emotions about speaking today. And one of them is that response that came in me from the events this week were the clarity that I already really was doing the job I wanted to be doing in terms of being kind and training in kindness and compassion, and I added to it fearless speaking. And I know fearlessness includes fear, that you're not being afraid to be afraid. And I know you teach fearlessness.

[14:46]

You've used that expression about yourself. At least I think I've heard you say that. I heard it myself, too. Okay. And so this is for you to announce that I'm in training. I feel I am now in training. I consider myself in training. those things and so I asked him letting people know that you could help train me and especially the fearless speaking because it's so hidden as a woman and a Jew I mean I can't tell you I wasn't brought up to be Jewish and I think that was hiding but that was the way my family They could keep me safe. So there's a lot about the way I didn't even know I was afraid to stick my neck out. And I want to do it completely kindly, because I have no doubt that that's the way. And I'm really grateful for that, and I'm grateful for... I feel extraordinary support in this journey, so thank you. you will continue to be supported.

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And I don't know if I qualify as a Jew, but I do have a Jewish daughter and grandchildren. So I don't know if that makes me a Jewish granddaddy or what. But anyway, and when I often see the lives of Jews, I think, If I was a Jew, it'd be very hard for me not to be a Jew. And being proud is dangerous. So that's one of the problems of being Jewish, is there's so many great Jews, you know, that if I was in that group, I would... But anyway, I can be proud that I have a Jewish tribe, which isn't quite as dangerous. The new president has a Jewish daughter and a Jewish grandchildren, too. And I have a lot of Jewish friends. I don't tend to be as proud of that as I am if I were actually a Jew, like I am.

[17:00]

But that wouldn't be good. That wouldn't be good. And I don't think a lot of Jews are not proud, even though... they're not hiding it either. They're just, this is my tradition and I want to uphold it. And bodhisattvas, they also really appreciate their tradition, but they have to be careful of pride too. Like I mentioned, you know, the Green Gulch Abbot said to me about somebody who might be called somebody who's studying with me, And she said, aren't you proud of her? And I said, she's not mine. I'm not, you know, I don't want to get into pride over these people who are studying with me. And she said, get over it. Boom, boom, boom, boom, boom.

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Earlier today, I think I asked you about fear, and you might have talked to me about it, but I completely either disappeared what you said or don't like it. So I want to say again that to me the biggest issue right now is fear. All day of the day, people would say something that they read in the paper. So I feel like I'm in this... Sometimes I get even more fearful about stuff which isn't even happening now. And all I can remember you saying about fear is, welcome it. And it just doesn't feel enough. I want to know, is there any other thing besides welcoming fear that you've had? I don't know. I welcome fear and also welcome the thought that it's not enough.

[19:12]

And then be careful of fear, even if you welcome it. It's like welcoming a dangerous guest into your house. After you let it in, don't keep your eye on it, you know. Keep keep attentive to the fear. Because you can welcome it, if you welcome it in your house, and then you don't keep an eye on it, it might feel neglected. So welcome it, but then keep your eye on it. it's, what do you call it, it's a dangerous guest not to attend to once you let it in. Now, if you keep it out, it's even more dangerous. It's, what do you call it, they had this statement from the... Keep your family close and keep your enemies closer. If you want to protect your family, keep your enemies close. closer than your family, and then you can take care of your family. Fear is our enemy, but it's also our good friend.

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So we let it in and then keep your eyes open and take care of it, which means be careful. Fear is unstable. handle with care. Fear is dangerous. Don't try to kill it. Don't deny it. Fear does not like to be denied. And if you deny it, it'll take revenge on you. Oh, you're going to deny me? Okay. Well, then I'm going to get behind you and I'm just going to operate you like... You're not even going to know what's making you do this stuff. Suddenly you're going to be talking contemptuously to people, because you ignored me. So now you're going to get, not only are you going to, you're going to now do some stuff you really don't want to do because you ignored me. A lot of people drink before they go to cocktail parties, or I guess at cocktail parties too.

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They drink because they're afraid of the other humans. They drink because they're afraid and they tense up. People use sex to numb or distract themselves from fear. And then slander it, or put yourself above it. These are ways to not be careful. So respect is part of loving the enemy. And fear is a big enemy, or you could say it's actually a huge, scary friend that almost nobody dares to make friends with. But the bodhisattvas make friends with fear. And that friend who lives with fear is a really, really alive friendship. The friendship that's with, you know, sweetness is also good.

[22:31]

Buddha lives in the center of fierce flames of fear. And she allows the flames to be there, she's careful of them, and then she's patient with the fear. It's not like, okay, I'm doing all this stuff, when's the fear going to go away? That's also not very respectful. I'm going to be with you and careful of you to get rid of you. Oh, you want to get rid of me? Okay, well, all right, I'm staying. I'm staying until you stop trying to get rid of me. Trying to get rid of me is kind of like you think you can control me with your tricks. Well, you can't. But you can make peace with me if you're my friend and there's going to be no problem for me to be in your house. Matter of fact, can I invite some more of my fear friends, my fear pals? Yes, they're welcome.

[23:34]

Buddha's house is full of demons who are all passive. Buddha's love is full of non-demons too. It's really... And then we could go on all the way up to perfect wisdom. Perfect wisdom is the final, you know, it's the coup de grace. Relate to fear. When you see there's no basis for it. But just for fun, we're going to let you stay anyway. Just so I can keep doing this compassion thing with you to show other people how to relate to fear. Or maybe I'll just let it go and other people can... I vow to embrace and sustain all beings, all greed, hate, and delusion, all rats, all mice, all ants, all humans, all Democrats, all independents.

[24:44]

I vow to embrace and sustain all beings. And it's really, really hard Even one is sometimes really, really hard. Especially me. All the time. In my face. Okay? Thank you for that wonderful answer. You're welcome. And I'll be right back to you. Yes? Yes? I want to say thank you to this beautiful sangha for coming. And I don't know how that happened, but it's really been medicinal. And I'm so grateful. Yeah, I don't know how it happened to you there, but... And Homer? Homer? I have the experience in the city, which I don't, it has, the question has not formed yet, but I like to share the experience and see if there's a question that forms from the experience.

[25:53]

In the city, I was actually able to go through the parts of me that has been not experienced love and compassion. the parts that it's so dense that does not even know compassion, does not even, compassion is foreign to it. As I felt, you know, I was approaching, approaching down deep, I felt this sadness that, oh my God, this part of me does not even know compassion. So therefore, I don't know what the question is. It made me understand that the beings who are out there that I call it as not compassionate or hard or trumps or trumpies, whatever that is, is maybe, I don't know, maybe these beings don't know.

[26:59]

Yes, or not enough. It's touched them, it touches them, and we need to join bringing compassion to all beings, even the ones who, for whatever reason, don't feel it's reached them or it's been so long. Because actually compassion is coming to us, we just have to wake up to it by practicing it. Yes, so my question is, I would like to ask for stillness, to be able to be still where compassion is not wanted. To just totally accept that. I hope you can be still where compassion is not wanted. where compassion is not wanted, there's compassion for compassion not wanted in that stillness.

[28:08]

Yes, Charlie. So I've heard about this finding that Republicans are characterized by hope. And now I've also heard from a lot of Democrats that there's a lot of fear. The research goes on. Never-ending research. A new discovery. The Nobel Peace Prize. But both of those phenomena, I think, are manifestations of expectation. And that we do put a lot of energy into practicing being careful with fear. I think we can practice that much as well around being careful with hope and expectation. Let's be generous and welcoming to expectations.

[29:14]

Let's be careful of them, because if we are not careful with them, we are easily disappointed. As I often mention, people ask for the Bodhisattva precepts, and I give them the Bodhisattva precepts, and then I say, Do you want to receive these Bodhisattva precepts? And they say yes, and I give it to them. And I say, Now that you have them, from now on, and even after realizing you to observe them, and they say, Yes, I will. And I ask them again and again, and they keep saying yes. But I don't expect them to do what they said. I do not. And so when they don't, I don't get disappointed and I don't give up on them. I'm for them to practice the precepts but not expecting them to do so. So I'm careful of expectations. I don't try to get rid of fear or hope or expectation. I be compassionate to fear, hope, and expectation.

[30:15]

That's my aspiration. And if I slip, Oh, disappointment. Oh, I guess I expected something. I guess I was dwelling someplace. I brought this nice gift, and then people threw it in the trash, and I was disappointed. Oh, I guess I expected they wouldn't throw it in the trash. Okay, here we go. Here's the gift. Oh, there it goes into the trash. Hey! I laughed that time. okay well it's getting close to the bewitching hour thank you all very very much i have deep gratitude for you and i have deep gratitude for our deep sorrow and deep pain and deep

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and deep confusion and deep everything. How about you?

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