Yoga Room Class - August 17th, 2021

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so this is our great song a great assembly and we've been lucky either a text on current great compassion written by an ancient bodhisattva named her sanga
so the saga has been studying the teachings of a sanga
and
if the tradition says a saga was actually the emanuel answers of another body cipher named my trail
so he received this teaching from
in his meditation from another body sought for and wrote it down
and ah here it is
sixteen hundred years later for us to enjoy
and as also told this tax it we're looking at is thirty four verses in a chapter that i think as many is sixty five verses and this is chapters seventeen of the book holbrook and there's about twenty chapters in the book
if there's time where we can go to the whole book
she
so i i think we've reached about to the point of various number fifty one
and this verse is to encourage generosity
and
i'll read it to you
i
increase
i cause increase i fully developed beings i gladden
i attract i lead
and and court
it is as if compassion encourages those who are weak in generosity
so one might understand that the i
the subject of this verse is compassion
this verse is compassion talking
and again the the body start for from home this is coming the body sought his name is my trail which means loving kindness
so this is a teaching coming from loving kindness my trail
and it's a teaching about compassion
to teaching about compassion coming from the body sought for love
i says compassion
increase so i compassion i i increase compassion increases by by continual practice
and i cause to increase
so ah this
compassion
causes or motivates the six perfections the six perfections of body surface this compassion
increases and motivates and develops it increases these perfections of giving
of ethical discipline
a patience
ah of enthusiasm and great effort and of tranquility and concentration and finally wisdom this compassion motivates and develops all these transcendent says
and and it attracts this compassion to tracks all the requisites and causes and conditions for awakening
and gladness this compassion glands
these practices
these practices are done on of compassion and and the compassion latins them
and finally this compassion leads
this is an unusual way of talking of having compassion ah kind of given voice were being addressed by compassion

the next verse how could one
who from merck versie who awkward one who from mercy suffers
in the presence of suffering
become happy without making others happy thus the merciful bodhisattva makes herself happy by making others happy
so this are echoes with earlier verse which says
the suffering that comes from compassion
is the greatest joy
so here again we have compassionate being
who feels suffering because of compassion to suffering bees but this also says
that one hood
as mercy suffers from the presence of others becomes happy
and it is that how could one become happy without making others happy and it does make others happy when week care for them and we suffer because we care for them and we have a great joy be
because we suffer because we care for them that joy latimer them
beings again are suffering compassionate beings feel for them and suffered because of it and this suffering is the greatest joy and this great joy that they feel in this suffering gladdened the suffering bags they are so happy to see someone
who cares for them and suffers for them and with them and also is very happy to be with them
this gladys them but this boys saatva could not be happy just
without this happiness which comes from compassion
yeah hat gladney others
just like this class
you know
we are suffering beings and we care for each other and we suffer because we care for each other and we are filled with joy
to have the suffering that comes from caring for each other and it is great joy for us to be together in this great assembly
this class is a great joy for me to come and suffer with you

and i hope it's been a great joy for you to come and suffer with us
because you care for us you care for us and so you suffer and it's a joy to be with us right that's number four fifty two fifty three the compassion at one aren't interested in her own happiness
in strikes as it were her own generosity
so compassion
is not a interested in her own happiness she does have come she does have great happiness but she's not she's not paying attention to her own happiness
her happiness comes because of her compassion for others
and so this big happiness comes but she's not interested in it it says
and though this compassion
this compassion which isn't interested in her own happy in us now will give instruction to generosity
the compassion which is not interested in the joy of practicing generosity will now give instruction to generosity
so the generosity will not be interested in the joy of generosity
make others happy with gifts of wealth
otherwise i also will have no happiness
as mine and others' happiness indistinguishable from me

not today
i was talking to somebody and sheet paul and i'm
she told me that she was doing various practices
ah she was doing exam if she was doing be possono and she was doing some other meditations on the nature of mind which she fought on very beneficial all of these practices she found beneficial but the first practice she told me about was she was practicing generoso
eighty
so when she was sitting she just tried to be as generous as she could be
and she found that very joyful
and then she said to me but i feel your kind of dispersed doing all these different practices
i'm not doing one practice and i said your would you like to do one practice but she said yes i said well you could make your won practice
so if you're practically passionate
you can practice vipassana as a gift

if you practice just sitting you can practice just sitting as a gift
if you do some mindfulness practice you can practice as that as a gift if you follow your breathing you can practice it as a gift
if you meditate on the nature on the luminous nature of mine and rest in it you can do that practice as a gift
and everything throughout the day all the different practices you do can make all of them a gift
she appreciated that
and then she said towards the end of our talk she said that when she practices generous pity she she gets this great joy so practicing generosity the fruit of it is
great joy great happiness comes to the practitioner or you could say
generosity the fruit of generosity is a joy comes to generosity
but hear what's being stretched into coming up and i said to her and oh she said to me he said is that okay i said wow
if you practice generosity and joy comes and you're practicing generosity compassionately than you would as soon as the joy came you'd give it away and not let the coming of the joy interrupt your giving practice so that's all i said that to her
oh and that's coming up in these verses we practiced when when when when when would practice generosity the fruit of the generosity that happiness comes to the generosity
but the body such as compassion gives away the gent the the fruits of generosity and goes doesn't get interrupted in the practice of giving so the body sought as not interested in
the bodhisattvas giving is not interested in the joy that comes to the giving they see it but they're not interested in what they're interested in is more giving and they let go of the joy and go back to work of giving to living being suffering living things
so as something came up today and and now look at the these characters with these verses
to beings i give gifts
compassion for says compassion says to beings i give gifts
as well as the fruits of that given project see that i give gifts and i also give them the fruits of the gifts of the giving
the because there is no distinguished and of their happiness
no because there is no distinguishing of her happiness from the happiness of others the bodhisattva the compassionate at one without that happiness of others does not desire
that happiness which has her own fruit of generosity
and then compassion goal was on to give further instructions
the giver though he hates wealth
keeps getting wealth even more abundant and beautiful so i'll just stop there
if you practice giving
our wealth comes to you
and if you it says hate here but anyway if you can't disregard or give away
the the the were gone the wealth and happiness that comes back create more wealth and happiness

the giver though he disregards is not interested in wealth keeps getting wealth even more abundant and beautiful but i do not think that know but i do not think
of that as happiness because for me there is just more continuity of given so rather than the real happiness is not the happiness that comes from giving it's the happiness that comes from continual practice of these of
gifting and ethics and patient since on that's the greater joy so this this happiness keeps coming but the body saw up and just keeps coming what's really their thing is to keep going
back to the given
and now again this is compassion talking to a sort of not fully developed generosity okay so compassion talking to not fully developed
a student compassion says you you generosity
always observe me
compassion letting go of all that i have
so comparisons talking to generosity you've seen how i let go of all i have
take a hint sweetheart
you always observed me compassionately letting go of what i have so can't you recognize that she has no interest in my fruits
my fruits means me generosity
compassion is not interested in my in the fruits of me
compassion is interested in me but not my fruits compassion gives away my fruits
and then again here comes another kind of interesting way of talking car fifty seven
i will not delight in generosity if i do not relinquish any fruit said yeah
and the next part is
to remain even an instant with our generosity is not to delighted in generosity so this is zeroing in on the generosity process practicing generosity fruits come
and but it and the fruit is josh
but if you remain in that joy is not the real delight of comparisons given
and if you remain for a moment in the process of giving
if if if you slip did the discontinuity is not the real joy the real joy is the great jr is in steady giving making everything we do given that to compassion that's our compassion practices giving he practices with everybody
everything every practice every event of the day that's the body side for that's the instructions of compassion is giving up our com are giving practice
and then
one more
you do not give fruits to one who does not give because you expect a reward you are not my equal send out compassion is being a little with some kind of
kind of a strict or something someone might even say compassion is being kind of harsh to this to the generosity that is expecting something so compassionate talking generosity and said you expect something and you're not my equal i give with no expect
ation
you do not give the fruits to one who does not give because you expect reward you are not my equal
do not respect do not expect reward i give your fruits to others voluntarily
again compassion talking to have to generosity and telling generosity don't expect anything and i give all the rewards that you give me away so you give me rewards but i'm telling you don't expect anything and all the reward you give me i
give away and you should too
so book so that in that way generosity because compassion becomes the in that way generosity becomes compassion equal

and then
carcass ah hard just telling us how how great compassion is and for the for the moment i'd like to skip over them if it's okay if you if you want to we can come back but i like to go to characters sixty two which says litter
really it says compassion for the pitiable compassion for the violence compassion for the disturbed compassion for the reckless compassion for those dependent on
sense objects
and compassion for those addicted to falsehood
and the parchin parentheses up a bobby says transcendence is are motivated by these six kinds of compassion
and these six kinds of compassion hard for beings who are not practicing the six perfections
so compassion for the pitiable means compassion for the stingy
compassion for
the violent his compassion for those who don't practice the precepts and her arm beings
compassion passion for the disturbed
are those is compassion for the angry
who aren't practicing
patience
compassion for the reckless his compassion for the lazy who are not diligent and you know
enthusiastic in their practice
and compassion for those dependent on sense objects
his compassion for
those who are disturbed by sense objects in other words they're not practicing concentration and compassion for those two hour
i'm addicted addicted to falsehood is compassion for those who are not practicing wisdom
so this is saying that compassion is it's applied to to us or or each being who's having trouble with any of the six basic practices of bodhisattvas
but it also says that
these practices of giving
ethical discipline patience enthusiasm
concentration wisdom these practices are motivated by compassion for not doing these practices
which if we remember that the we were trying to practice these practices were trying to practice giving or were trying to practice ethical discipline when we're trying to practice not be harmful when we're trying to practice patience and were not being successful
compassion
comes to these comes to us and the compassion that comes to us
leads to practicing these practices out of compassion

by practicing compassion towards a lack in these practices these practices grow through compassion towards them not being for the practiced i thought that was a
i really great change of perspective on these practices
so in other words when we're having trouble practicing these transcendent bodies are the practices these six perfections
the if we want to practice them we need to let compassion come to our current state of practice and that compassion will motivate us to do these practices fully appropriately and and beneficially
so that's that's what i thought i would come under from the text today and now open up to the great assembly and
please lead me on the path of righteousness

gail
iran
hello great assembly
on this is a question i was going to ask you last week but i i think it it relates to tonight
i recently was done well i try to
i tried to
we to stay open to
our requests for assistance when they come to me and sometimes it does fatigue me and you have talked about this before i think when you were talking about the the three levels of compassion it is with sentimental compassion where one seats
oneself as separate from the other that the
an
the
weak point in that can be that you you get tired and i was feeling not not just tired but like a discouraged ah yan hemp and tempted to give up re and example tonight
i was tired but i knew that you would uplift me
i knew that in the way we we're working together which support me even though i'm tired but you could also have lot of and energy but if you think your were also we before we're talking and earlier part of this tax is talking about seeing the equality of self and other
we seek the equality and self other we still might get tired but we won't we won't be afraid of being tired you will be a lovely tired like i had tonight it's a lovely happy tired
and if i buy a chance collapse
problem you know cause you're all wet with me
okay well i'm in so i'm kind of saying that that that way of seeing this event of me meeting you tonight
it's kind of like seeing us as equal were doing this together but if i have to do it all and i'm tired than i probably one don't want to come to the meeting tonight
yeah you know so that the key is the the drawback of sentimental compassion which is lovely in many ways is that because we don't see ourselves as equal to others
we we are drained spiritually drained
and may be physically and emotionally also but if you're if you're physically drained
you can still be more you can still be spiritually uplifted if you speak that the beings your with are equal to you
so you're tired you're like i'm tired but i'm here with you and your helping me be here
but if i'm supposed to people on his big show by myself and i'm tired i don't want to come can the knock to a very good job
yeah well it's interesting that you say that because then the example i want i want to share with you i think i i didn't feel like i was there a kind of doing it by myself because well in the beginning a friend had reached out to me and wanted to talk and wanted to take a walk and i was already kind of tired
but i said yes i wanted to be there for her and as we were walking along i was am
i was in it with her but i was perceiving my fatigue and i i think i was fairly compassionate to myself and to her and i just said to myself well
how can i what can i do here and i thought oh i can i can try to remember silence and stillness and i i kind of leaned into that in the best way i could kind of intuitively and i i t
ride to perceive the silence and stillness in her in me in the trees in the path and it actually did
hell and did relieve the sense of fatigue and i'm wondering if it's hartley well i i was relatively i was pretty compassionate to myself and my fatigue and her and her need and then i i'm wondering if the silent if if trying to remember silence and stillness
the connection the equality young everything it might help you awake into the to the equality and in the a quality you might be able to save your friend would you please help me
so she really be sure to you for help but i didn't hear you talking about reaching out to her for help correct yeah but if you're if if yeah i think she reached out for us for help you want it you wanted to give yourself to her that's good and you noticed you getting tired and you to carry yourself
as good and the way to carry yourself actually by remembering stands to stillness you remembered a way to be with your tiredness
that could possibly lead you realizing which are really need and that has to see the equality of you and her
and
maybe what she needs is for you to touch to complete the picture but she needs and you need is for you to ask her to help you
to help to do this thing of you helping her to get there
and to do the singer of her helping you to gather cause your equal and far as the stillness is a good place
when we when you're with what you're going on it isn't just as it is a silent stillness to get away from your tiredness
or to get away from your friend in the midst of it was you were you sounds like you were
you were there with her you were there with yourself and then you got this gift of remembering silence and stillness and right in there is where you will be able to discover the equality
and there you will find a spiritual energy
it doesn't get drained
but emotional or physical energy gets drained from our dualistic thinking
and but spiritual energy can hold it up from were physically tired
and also protect us from or even when we're not physically tired fair spiritual energy costs the energy that comes with a spiritual means the energy that comes from the wisdom energy that come from wisdom that can support us when we're have lot of energy were full of energy because without
that even though are full of energy we we can still get drained if we see things to realistically the whether we have a lot of energy or a little energy if we have this insight
that will protect us from you know
the abandoning ship
yeah i i associate joy with energy but i understand that i'm you know the the minute you want to ah take the energy from joy than harm i would imagine you're at risk and also you can have joy
but a blender you can have joy in your joints through with your friend and thinks you're not equal to her and then
spiritually you're being drained
thank you the gear

fran
good evening web or evening for and great assembly
oh i thought i'd share a couple things about how
compassion and generosity and how i was thinking about gunman in particular with my therapy clients
so i feel like when i'm practicing with their minutes i'm trying to be compassionate i think the waiver i'm doing that ah a way that i'm using generosity there is and not because i well i'm not giving a physical object
but i feel like what i'm giving them yes my full attention like openness turbo and that feels like it works for me and works for them are oh so that that feels good and i know but i was noticing when i'm trying
and to be compassionate and other circumstances
that's somehow of feel like always the compassion is coming through or or done will get how said that lateral noice feel like in other situations with friends or acquaintances or people neighbors ah if i tried to be compassionate
i sometimes run in into not knowing how to do that when there's not a particular thing to give and so i started looking at giving that i would also give my attention and openness and those circumstances and that
that's actually nail salon whatever changing the own salads been really helpful if feels like they're the the generosity part or maybe any one of the sixth factions but or focus allah generosity or and i was more it's it's kind of a medium
for the compassion like the compassion needs a medium is how it feels to me sad or helping uses generosity to guide beings
compassion uses generosity to encourage beings
yeah so sour soup wintertime version also teaches beings how to do generosity properly
oh right
yeah so i wanted to share that i am just one other case with my clients that comes up and as a very strong feelings with amis every once in awhile i'll feel like
it's that such an honor to be let in to someone's completely total internet life and share every tiny little crevice of it and that's something that ah
i wouldn't have any way to do with that particular person if i wasn't doing the work on day
have sought enough there some thoughts about how to build on that feeling
oh my god with as your your your he didn't say so but you feel like you're receiving a great gift
yes and receiving gifts is also generosity
and feel the joy of receiving gifts
and if if they know that you feel grateful for the gift of of their of of them
and then be honest with you
sometimes they also might give you some other gifts like being dishonest but anyway in both cases you might feel like
gratitude that they're showing themselves in these different ways and that's that to give back to them to see your happiness to receive all of them
well how can offer and also your welcoming them
you're welcome welcoming however that whatever they're giving used
that also
really encourages them
if they feel you welcome them even when never afraid and confused you give them attention you give them attention if that's great that brings joy to the situation but also you welcome them being where they are not all small hands
yeah okay to let them know that that's how i feel your new have to tell them they can tell when you they can tell when you when you welcome them that can feel you're welcome them they can see you're not they can see that you're not trying to tell him not to be that were like you know we haven't this thing somebody's crying people
say don't cry don't be sad don't be afraid this is part of our this is part of our culture don't be the way you are ah the not don't be sad don't cry now your big girl don't cry rather than
i'm here i woke i welcome your tears people crying uncle apologize for crying right
i want i want them to feel welcome from to cry
oh or yeah and even welcome to be angry
and they can tell if we welcome it or not you can also say it out loud i welcomed me to be way you are but that's fine and then the question that fishy sometimes i say that the people and they say what a pin or feel it if i say welcome just keep saying and until you do me that
like if i say if i even if i think to myself when somebody comes welcome
the first couple days on my field was them who was that sincere like if i continue have to why i really do will from it ah ha ha and they get and so you can say a welcome and eight and they can feel like does not sincere
but you can also welcome them without saying anything and they feel you're sincerely well coming them
okay smack you know you give your attention you give your presence that's giving them in a stayed appreciate that gift you also receive them graciously that's awesome gift thank you for thank you for sharing your life with me
when you say it or not they can feel you really grateful to be with them so it was both giving and receiving
okay sounds something about that more
thank you i watched you walk him and lot of people don't think that attentions are really good gift but you know ah little kids in a load the little boy says
look mom no hands right now right now i know that moment in the mom says my eyes there on you i'm what i'm here i'm watching you and that just what he will want to hear i'm watching you you got my attention i wandered you got it and that's great this is it it's such a great gift
kara welcomed

i was going on
the theme to to see you
i'm
when you said last week i think he said something along the lines of next with the last class then i welcome people haven't come forward to share their face and i found out why i really like to do that i hadn't had anything come up and man am i think
i've been sitting here waiting for my turn thinking am i gonna get through this without crying and i'm thirsty it was good to hear you welcome tears
sarah i'm something difficult has tapped me on my life right now i'm back

my targets is probably dying
ah get them elected member of our family and their if very attached to him and am
i had a crisis last friday and am it's not like good and am
so i i want it
wanted to talk to you about
i'm
how
how i can am practice with that and trying to hide myself back here okay nevermind i guess i can't zero eight ago
oh okay so he's he's in bad shape i am i've been
i've been sitting with him and during a lot of am what i considered compassion practices with him i've been am chanting that and made to can i go
and i'm also doing am what i can see a from reading about tangram practice
and am
climb him out to be really
how i thought and
yeah i'm one thing i could say about bad is that i feel i do really feel like can compassion and mean crisis as i am during the practice said if they start start pouring out of me and away like in i'm emerson focusing on him and then
then suddenly it seems like there's some some chances if i'm practicing with the whole world and necessarily to has been quite lovely
i am
i don't know i don't have a question i just wanted to tell you what was going out of have been because it's really big and the biggest is really wonderful if you and i guess that if there is a question merits the nerds i'm finding i'm
really attached to this little guy and i'm
and
i know that i loved him and that that's
perhaps there but there's also some clinging happening know i just read that car car number sixty two and that attachment is also calling for compassion
so the little guys calling for compassion yes that's good you're giving it that's great
but your attachments also in the room
yeah you're in compassion comes to your attachment to in in that will teach children that will teach your company your attached what to do not know how lagarde and more you let go of your attachment to him the more your compassion will will help him
the more abundant you will be
but generosity does not try to get rid of your attachment
it embraces it and who is your is gracious towards your attachment
the attachment is interfering with the in gracious it's an opportunity to be gracious
attachment wasn't saying thank you to the situation no no and ten minutes or but you can be you can say thank you choose attachment
spank you attachment you can be in their room to with us got the doggie the families that the commitment we're all here together everybody gets compassion nobody's left out yeah
yeah
you
thank you
is
if this guy like i know nobody's telling you not to be the way you are now
say thank you thank you to you for the being the way you are
thank you and thank you for
helping you you are and i really appreciate you think you

it arab
what nick
did you first class ah
ah my question was about man
i think god earlier you said that a rounded the text said that for generosity to be compassionate equal it has to be without ah expectation of receiving something and loser advice emotion like giving without any expectation of receiving
as its own sort of gift
in what came to my mind was sort of like on misgiving without expectation of receiving is like this gift of being like free from ah thinking you need a thing or is a certainly like is my question made it is that that
on the gift that we receive when we go without having expectation of receiving as it sort of like this gift of liberation or this gift of freedom from you know the view of self and other
and and the the thing i can come up from after that was thinking why giving things away before and also felt resentful and self neglect self neglect itself punishing so
this idea like what it what is this gift of giving it an expectation or receiving and a you know like do we really expect a sunday just get over that kind of resentment that we can feel by neglecting ourselves by giving every finger you don't expect to someday you'll be that way
don't expect that you'll be that way but you will be that way but i don't expect you to be that way
the more you give without expectation the more you'll become a person
who's free of expecting things and you can and you can want things without expecting this
like you can walk lunch without expecting it and you can give people gifts without expecting them to give you a reward and if you give them and expect a reward you'll still get a reports
but if you give without expectation the reward will be much greater and if you give it without expectation you'll be more likely not to attach to the great reward
but if you give with expectation than when you when you get the reward you might that might encourage you to expect more from giving
which then you know that my work again but then when you don't get rewards you must you might say i'm retiring from giving this is no good this giving thing
and the more you in him and emma are we give and ah with expectation and get rewards and attached to them the more we're undermining are giving practice
however again
ha
if we are giving and expecting some than compassion comes and teaches us compassion doesn't abandon us when we're giving with some expectation it comes and helps us noticed that and be kind to are immature generosity practice
so if you notice that you gave something and you expected something will be less compassion come and be kind to you for doing that and then you could say and with silly you know that's enough that it was silly no compassion can you say you're not my equal
but i'm here for you to tell you that are you gotta do not want be my equal is trying give the same gift to give another gift in this time just treading give it flat out purely and as soon as you give it go on to another gift rather than looking around to see what you're gonna get for it and if you'd give that way you get even more gifts you get even boring
words and the more you practice without attaching to reward some more reward you get to not attached to
but in the meantime we'd get tripped up occasionally and then when we get tripped up in our generosity practice compassion goes there and helps it has learn how to do it the right way which is with no expectation

the reducing work she wished she we expect to be in this ultimately in the state of of liberation from ah no liberation from expecting things are wanting things is it that is a third goal is practice i don't i myself sort of kind of don't
i kind of like don't get into the expectation of that i get into the wish for it i i give in to the commitment to it i give in to questioning that very teaching like if we do generosity we will have we will awaken to the equality of self
and other and we will be free and when and i want to walk on that path but i don't expect it i do not expect it so if i'm not if i'm not realizing in a given mama the equality of self and other i don't get discouraged by that i just i just say oh i
i i thought i wasn't equal to that person oh i'm often and i am kind to myself and i wanna be that way
i want non-stop compassion and non-stop generosity and i want to realize equality of self and other identified and then i understand and i'm committed to that pratt understanding
what will help all beings and also will purify my giving practice and purify the compassion practice but i don't expect it
so if you're not that way tomorrow i'm not an abandoned you
if you are that way or club
nice going nick yeah you made it you get you i gotta insight into the equality of self another good work now let's move on
and if if you're not that way i i don't expect you to be that way so i'm there for you to and same for myself
i see people's commitment to the forty sad for path i think it's wonderful i don't expect him to follow it
however i believe that if they wanna do i do believe they wanna do that but i don't believe they're gonna do it tomorrow
but i i i believe they're heading in that direction and they want to go in that direction like this woman who had all these practices and she said i'm kind of just pressing you want to have one practice by gave her one practice but i to do it maybe next time my doctor she'll have even more practices and be more distracted and is
first hub that what turned me off
because i don't expect her to and i found my brilliant in teaching

and i don't expect you to either
but i pray you do
and i pray you
thank you for coming forth nick
here

what am king
i read
and following you know you're teaching and nice i really appreciate it and i really appreciate car presenting these teachings and illuminating them for us now for me i find them very difficult and sometimes even opaque
so much so that right over the course of their across the chorus i thought why can't i don't really know if i have receptors the tsunami
i don't get it large antelope every once in awhile a little glimmer comes through
how acquire the right
illuminated
xo after our last they're reading
i'm having these thoughts and and under and have this dream that night
after our last meeting and andor
and in in the dream
i'm meeting up with this person that it that i used to know casual woman that i you know casually meaning
maybe she lived in my neighborhood we worked in the same building or you know something
but now things are a little different for the and i'm starting to notice or more and she's on symbian
hockey and just in the dream yes is only a risk we started talking and i were hanging out your though a bit more and up
idea i know like
i can't like this one
this is my twenty year old self you understand
although i'm about to get a gift
here and a
and i said i i i thought you were small and really like a smaller percentage so you know things change when plans change in as night and so
anyway thanks development i'm sorry have these feelings like gosh me
the and trust trust who transpires that we're we're in a kind of lab
let's be a dance hall somewhat air and earth
i'm
i am given to understand that we're supposed to dance together
not that all with us will not go one i'm really not a big clumsy and there's long time i don't really know her anymore she appears to be really good dancer and blah blah blah but nonetheless
we start asking to
and ah
it's reply
and obviously she thinks so too
and we're dancing that route and more were dancing the the more joyful it gets a and highway forty so
all a sudden it doesn't really matter if i'm a good dancer or not a good against it's just like
for this feeling and
and i thought you know there's a wonderful feeling
there's a word with ceiling
it's salt love
or more explicitly more explicitly as call falling in love know that
wow
again even these words can't convey the feeling is your very intense very real very rare and very wonderful
not a wow that's pretty nice
that i can have that feeling can i can understand that humans
and then the best park happens remains
but when the dream ends it's falls
ah lessons like lesson number one without my even having to analyze energy is a dream was about these teachings
and i don't and it's not something i sat down and work out this is the part of the package that comes with and then i had worked is what what cetera so
ah and had other very nice teachings along with it one i'll just mention is there and then reading mulcair t with the sintra new etc somebody asks maturity gets do shrimps
if beans are really like clouds of bubbles or garages or how is my house person supposed to have love and compassion
and me this dream doesn't answer that question it wasn't necessary to go through a lot of intellectual exercise to figure that out it was just there as well as you know
that's something i'll do the intellectual exercise later but that's that's really something working
the other thing that was wonderful was that
one all this handed
dreams do
i didn't have any regrets and and have to lie to an empty grief or any oh and this law says his leg this nap it came up that emphasis like part of the process it was not
it was not something degree of about that the time mom because she
was it she a dream she there was a a is like a gift visitation that one it was older it was older that was like that was a understanding it was over and as i'm saying this now our tires somebody's also i'm hearing it from somebody else i would think are we must be really surpass
let's gone but i wasn't there was not even a trace that which i thought was quite wonderful
so on
it is about these teachings i have lot over to you
i think i'm headed in that direction and i thank you so much for all this
the again so much for bringing the teachings into your dream and giving them up

oh lauren low go to subway good evening
what's that unfold how much i appreciate and
this class and down everyone
in this discussion on question
in this particular teaching of none
really intriguing me
i have a real question out
america thirty two go on the compassionate bodhisattva understand that everything included in the lifecycle naturally both suffering and also selfless he neither becomes disgusted know a damaged or in power
sauce and the question was
so suffering exists but am
if there's if there is no self
it in this car coffee talks about us that the bodhisattva nerves it's also softly so if someone asked if there is no self than who who isn't that suffering it's a little bit different from there is no self it's saying that is saying that
that it is selfless
so things in the world of samsara the world of birth and death all the things there are selfless and suffering
they have the in this cargo but it's not saying there's no self it sang all the things all the kind all the suffering beings are are without self
okay so then then on
the other question was what does naturally suffering me because is there an unnatural suffering
ah but before we get into that did you get did you have no questions about the previous partner had said they don't they're not disgusted or harmed did you understand that part i did understand that part and then i'm also is ah
am i was wondering if this thing about top ring and selfless
the selflessness is like for example when you on
when you feel like you've been hurt or there's pain and you been hurt and suffered from from something somebody did yeah and then you remember that that you love them and you let them no matter what and it's like the that pain
and hurt in the supreme just disappears and it's almost as if
yeah it did they never hurt you at all
sounds good no no but i mean is this is is this related to this
i'm
talking about the naturally suffering in samsara and selflessness and samsara
as described in this
a carcass thirty two years had that how does not make sense while the first part is when you see suffering in others are you in yourself if you have compassion you're not disgusted by it you don't try to avoid it you embrace it
that's the first part because of compassion you're not disgusted you don't run away from it
you don't like it but you you're not disgusted you're not afraid of it you engage in the next part is the bodies have also understands to suffering is selfless so if you embrace suffering but you don't understand it's selfless then it can still hurt you
even though you know are disgusted but if you see if you have compassion and caesar his selfless than you not only don't run away from it but you don't get hurt by it
but when you see that it's selfless is it was really a like use me that's kind of like what you said in your or the early example he said is not really suffering at all
so suffering isn't really suffering is just suffering because it causes and conditions it doesn't have a self suffering doesn't have the self which is different from saying there's no self is that the suffering does have a self the suffering is the whole universe appearing in the form of suffering
and when you see the suffering that way it doesn't harm you anymore
but if you just have that
vision and in there would be nice you'd have that and it wouldn't harm you he still might be disgusted by it if you didn't have compassion
but with compassion
with bodhisattva of compassion you can engage with the world and not be hurt by it
the just as you just as you may have monetary ah
times are moments
maybe don't feel like you have a self then if when somebody material in few new family homes you they don't have a cell by there when you feel like you don't have itself that's a delusion
that's a feeling
you're confusing a feeling with reality
it's not that you don't have a self it's like you feel like you don't have a self but the reality is i don't have a cell it's that's not reality that's an that's an illusion that you don't have a self thinking that you have a self is a delusion thinking that you don't have a self is it an illusion
those two thoughts i do have a self the thought i do himself his selfless there's not you can't actually find the thought i do have self it's is a phantom
course i do of yourself i don't have herself that's another thought it's a phantom
because it's the thought because it's a bot if abandoned because it's my thoughts thoughts or phantom young thoughts our thoughts are just fabrications of causes and conditions wonderful fabrications of causes conditions like i do have herself i don't have herself
those are those your opinions or thoughts and and then then they're calling for compassion
the their part of some sorry though if you believe people some stories where people believe their thoughts on reality and compassion goal was to that the people who believed their thoughts or reality
it's not disgusted with them heaviness these thoughts and then believing that your true it's not discussed it with them it'll loves all beings like that
and it seems their selfless so these beings we have these are attached to these delusions they don't hurt to compassion compassion is a fine you can believe that snuck gonna hurt me
you're not going to hurt me and me i'm compassionate not talking you're not gonna hurt compassion and you know
hurt compassion the pain of believe in the thought isn't gonna hurt compassion compassion grows under all on all of it and it doesn't fall for any of it has been true if it falls for things being true than the compassion is gonna be harmed it's gonna be undermined
but but he suffered compassion doesn't get undermine it grows
it's it is growing i can see it growing right now
so thank you for bringing third car thirty two it's a very important one
do you wanna say something about naturally suffering non natural suffering
right now i would confess to you and i understand i confess that i'm not sure what naturally means it it right now on i'd have to go look at the text for a few minutes to see what they mean by naturally but right now and next time we meet we can talk about natural okay
a nudge suffer
you're welcome thank you

gene in the dark cave
he
hello rug would even in june
hello everybody
i have a to two questions the first is some ken one fully embrace another's suffering without understanding it
yes
you're already doing it
and someday you can understand that
but you're already are you're already embracing my suffering fully it just it it just that the way you're doing it is not something you can figure out with your conscious mind
so your conscious mind i will never understand how you embrace my suffering fault
the because i'm
your conscious mind is charged part of you and your part of me in a more connected that's that's that teaching is how it is that we're embracing each other's suffering
but our conscious mind cannot actually comprehend that however that can illuminate our conscious mind and free us free us from our conscious mind and allow our whole our whole being to open to that truth which is what we that's what
that that's what to come borisov for compassion wants to help us do is to really understand that we do fully embrace each other's suffering
and to be able to then enact that and perform that in daily life even though
the conscious mind can't understand that okay
in it can be illuminated and liberated so won't get in the way of as being able to an act that
okay so so with this limitation
let me i feel pretty confident that my embrace of of you is beneficial however can a compassionate
oh
can compassion
a re-enforce bad be bad behavior candidate
reinforce harmful behavior
i would say that this first type of compassion can reinforce the first type of compassion
you mean the sentimental young had to split the mental compassion can reinforce sentimental compassion and sentimental compassion is somewhat harmful because it sometimes makes us want to give up being compassionate because the way where compassionate is seeing some others as up
read and that kind of drains our compassion practice so it has a drawback sent to metro compassion can hurt our compassion practice and sometimes make us want to stop being compassionate for a while as if you feel separated and the helper
but what if you like great comment if you don't feel separated but you the other person is feeling your
compassion and interpret it as an endorsement of their behavior rather than themselves are you know how to say that but what it is possible to happen if we have a buddha here maybe and the buddhist has not that sentimental ca
fashion has real true great compassion and people can interpret that in all kinds of strange and erroneous ways and the buddha does not stop them from doing that
no continued can you can you talk about that a little bit when like somebody could think the buddha has a crush on them

or the buddha could think that buddha likes the other person more than you
people could do that but it could be very been very kind to your sister and you might end end you might interpret that as buddha cares more for my sister than me
it's not true and barbuda can't stop you from making that mistake
but you could think that who does not stopping you from from having this diluted idea about buddha the buddha has preferences
so so how on how does that how does that like say for instance if someone interprets
this great compassion
as
reinforcing say self-righteousness or reinforcing high harmful something that's harmful and some way
what does it what does the great compassion is there an effort is there is a skillful means to help redirect that or is there an effort to do that or do just
sit with it now them there isn't so much an effort the great compassion is not trying to redirect a delusion the self righteousness it doesn't redirect it cracked it it practices generosity towards him it lets it be self righteousness and it brings his great loving kindness
as and compassion to the self righteousness and in the in the presence of that great compassion not sentimental compassion but great compassion this sentiment sentimentality this self righteousness will melt but this put the compassion is not trying to melt
the compassion is letting it be generously letting it be self right just ness exactly like it is lovingly generously saying thank you for him very much to the self-righteousness and when the self-righteousness is treated with such generous
i love it will wake up and drop away
but the pin and that can happen without understanding it
no like understanding and as self righteousness
you might not understand and it is software to see and you don't have to understand it as of self righteousness you just have to use you the main thing is you want to be free of it
but the way you become free of self righteousness might be not by understanding self righteousness but by understanding that self righteousness is not self righteousness that may be the way you become free of it
ah
so you just going closer
hmm you just go closer you if you an intimate with self righteousness you realize what it really is and be free of it
but somebody needs to show us how to get close if you don't already know how
if we knew how to do it already we wouldn't be caught by
and that's what great compassion as teaching
yes
okay
sad work yeah and great compassion
embraces the hard work
thank you

one more okay great bear timothy
thank you so much rather for everything and thank you great assembly from a new here everybody
ah
i am so grateful furry you introducing me to the being of compassion
been diluted for so many years thinking i had to i had to do compassion myself
and such a great burden has been listed for me i was been walking in erroneous pathways with everything about buddhism not understanding the importance of
understanding and a allowing compassion to be and and practicing generosity towards my
my delusions
and allowing them to be and i i'm just so grateful to you for bringing this teaching in allowing me for a few moments to pull the or of the boat here for a little bit with you
that's all and that's plenty thank you so much
well it's getting to the
the bewitching hour
that's yes eight thirty eight forty six and i just wanna say again i
i really enjoyed a there are meetings act like tonight i was tired before but i knew you would i'll lift me up and make it past both for me to be here wholeheartedly for the whole meeting and you did thank you so much and please continue to support fish as
and let me support you in your practice of buddhist compassion for the welfare of all beings including us

may our intention equally extend to every being and place with the true marriage buddha's way beings are numberless i vow to save them
afflictions are inexhaustible i vow to cut through dharma gate is are boundless i allowed to enter them but away is unsurpassable i bought out to become it
thank you everybody good night live
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